The day of “Love”. This year I spent my Valentine’s Day with 12 lovers. I consider my self a lucky girl. As the facilitator of this couple’s retreat, we spent 2 days nestled in a quiet cabin in Helen, Ga. The theme from the book “Love Dare”. A 40 day challenge to practice unconditional love in various aspects of the couple’s real life situations.
Intimacy plays a very important role when it comes to loving another unconditionally. So it was important for us t learn as a group but, to have a space to learn as a couple in private time. Activities as a group included DIY class, cooking, a trip to the winery, candle light dinner. It was necessary to separate the men and women. Cigars and an open conversation with the husbands at a cozy cigar shop gave me a better perspective of their views on romance and sex. My wives took the cake in a super early morning mini Seduction School lesson, lap dances, strutting in heels, and learning what it takes to build desire. The evening Sex School session gave us an opportunity to introduce a few toys and tips to revamp the bedroom routine. Plus, tips on making it happen regardless of mood and schedules.
Although, it was a lot of fun getting to know the group I cherished the one on one (usually late night) chats most of all. The interesting part about this group was that they were honest with themselves on what the high and low points were in their relationship. Not being afraid to pull me to the side for a little advice when needed. The first step is definitely having a desire to do better for your mate.
I am grateful for meeting such a lovely group of loving wives and adoring husbands. It is honorable that they cherish each other enough to take time away from their kids and careers in nu0rish and invest in their marriages.
Do you love a romantic sleepover as much as I do? There is something naughty about throwing panties and a toothbrush into an overnight bag. Romantic sleep overs are not limited to the singles. Married couples can–and should–definitely have romantic sleepovers. When you are married its called a getaway. Even if it is visiting the family for the holidays, you can still turn this into a romantic moment. I make it a rule keep a bag in my car packed, because you never know when a romantic moment may lead to an overnight stay;) This bag is called my “Naughty” bag.
I call it the “Naughty” bag, because it is filled with everything needed to make any night or day adventurous or romantic. The contents of this bag should have the ability to keep him guessing, which is the key element in seduction. You are only as romantic, as your last romantic gesture! Here’s what lives in my bag ready for a road trip, lunch time fun, or just a night without the kids.
♥Lip gloss-lips must always be supple and kissable at all times.
♥Mints-Keep it fresh! Also, a great treat during oral pleasure.
♥Condoms-Because a Sex Kitten knows that safety comes first.
♥Thongs-Sexy under any outfit. Oh and keep disposables on hand in Case of Emergency.
♥Heels-4 inches or more make you look larger than life, giving you long legs and a nice butt.
♥T-shirt & scissors-Be prepared to make an outfit at a moments notice.
♥Baby wipes- Easy before/after sex clean up and makeup remover.
♥Candles/Incense & matches-Always set the mood. We all look great by the glow of candlelight.
♥Baby oil/lotion-After shower, give your skin life with a little shine!
♥Sex toys/Lube-Threesome is now an option. Maybe you need a little time for self discovery. Or just play.
♥Cuffs, Ribbon-No matter how you tie it, it’s always more fun without hands!
♥Blindfold/scarf-Remove the sight to heighten the senses. Add some Aphrodisiacs…enough said.
♥Lingerie-Every woman needs pretty things, nothing makes you feel more feminine.
♥Wigs-Give him a new girl, every now and then. The ultimate love affair is with you.
♥Romantic music-Make a list for cuddle time, lovemaking, travel, etc. Memories for a lifetime.
♥Camera-Capture the moment. Before, After, During. His private collection.
♥Paper and Pen-Leave him sweet and sexy notes. Send a postcard/love letter to him from your time together.
♥Perfume-Entice him with your lovely scent. Don’t over spray. Add a little to that love letter.
♥Makeup/Nail polish-Just in case a touch up is needed! Beauty is apart of sexy.
♥1001 Ways to Be Romantic,J. P. Godek-Need a little planning something quick…hundreds of ideas.
♥Champagne or Cocktails-Serve up sexy drinks, sit back, and relax. Drink Responsibly!
♥Massage oil-Take away the stress with a little rub down a la nude.
♥Bubble Bath/Sea Sponge-Bathe together as a way to cleanse and connect. Make this a ritual.
♥Personal toiletries- A sexy is always prepared! Never know where adventure will lead.
Don’t forget an outfit and shoes to go home. What do you put in your Naughty bag?
Happy Friday! This video has been the highlight of my morning. write, pot, and prepare for up coming workshops and events, music is my assistant. Love songs–sexy songs– assist me in getting my mental flow. It sparks that romantic state of mind-needed to be a seduction coach– even on the days I am just not feeling it. Anita Baker’s Angel never really moved me–people would always sing it, due to my name Angel (annoying)–until I fell in love. I heard the words for the first time, I have never been the same when I hear it.
This compilation of great artist singing some of my favorite songs by Ms. Anita Baker, has allowed me to remember love found and love lost. Tell me what song takes you away to that moment in time, where Love was the motive.
I can remember being a young girl sitting in front of the TV and watching this video and their other song “Shoot’em Up Movies”. I have always loved a good love song. I had it on VHS tape for a really long time –college–beause of Babyface and the guy with the jerry curl. Thank God for Youtube, keeping my memories alive:) What love song reminds you of your youth?
Men can appreciate a little foreplay. Make it flirty, sensual, & naughty.” #xoharley