Join Us 7/11

intimate1  Intimacy Remix Cocktail Event

Join School of Seduction for our Intimacy Workshop hosted at the Urban Temple Spa on

July 11, 2014 @ 9pm until 10:30pm

This event is for girlfriends to come together, enjoy cocktails, and get tips from Harley on intimacy, romance, and adding a sizzle to the bedroom.

The tuition for this event is FREE. 

If you would like to attend this event please visit the link below:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/intimacy-remix-cocktail-event-tickets-12231674267

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Invest in your relationships and it will give you the return you desire.

 

 

Finding Confidence In a Click.

Harley

Harley

Confident. Powerful. Beautiful. Sexy.  These are the words that come to mind when I see this photograph, taken by the late Marlene Lillian.  In 2010, I started Sultry Soiree, now known as the School of Seduction, as an outlet to educate women in many areas of confidence, life, and intimacy. As a part of this dream brand, I wanted to allow woman a space to have professional boudoir photos taken as a gift for themselves or significant other.  In my mind I had a vision of what sexy looked and felt like. I needed a photographer who would see my vision in the same light, then came Marlene.  She was funny, passionate, and a true artist. I knew she was perfect.

We set a date, began planning, and the ladies signed up.  Some were existing students others were new to the concept of my brand.  As the coach, I volunteered to be photographed first, as an example to my students.  Secretly, my students did not know  this would be a challenge for my shy side.  Having my picture taken in a sexy manner was one of those moments of discomfort and insecurity for me.  At the time one of my best friends, Lala was my assistant, so she helped, we shopped, as well as assisted others in their boudoir vision.  We were ready and prepared to have our first marathon boudoir photo shoot, at the elegant Gates House Bed & Breakfast in Columbus, Georgia.

On shoot day I woke up with mixed emotions about the pending day’s events.  I was super excited that a dream for my business would come true.  But, I was terrified that I had signed myself up to be photographed.  It did not matter that I had sexy outfits, or that I was accustom to being viewed as a sex symbol. Or that I was considered the confidence coach for the women who would follow me in the same task.  All I could think about was, the thought of a stranger looking at me through her lens.  Not just looking, but capturing the way she see saw me.  The mere thought made me crazy and ultimately my assistant too.  She was in awe, of the sight of my panic.

My assistant told me to find Harley (my alter ego) and pull it together.  So, I drove to the B & B to get this terrifying dream day started.  I had my face made and got dressed.  In walked, my friend Temeshia, student and my class photographer.  She was so supportive and excited, helping me laugh away some of the nerves.  More ladies started to arrive for makeup and wardrobe.  In that moment I was reminded of the lessons I had shared with the ladies over the previous months.  The most important lesson being, you have to be confident, no matter who is looking at you or what you think they maybe thinking.  So, after a glass of wine, I climbed on this most gorgeous bed, to have my picture taken.  The first few clicks were nerve-wracking, but I never said stop.  After more than 200 clicks I began to feel Sexy, Powerful, Beautiful, Confident.  It was amazing that what seemed so scary just moments before, started to feel glorious, and freeing, and natural.

The day was a success, as I returned to my role as coach and assisted my ladies in having the best moment of their lives.  The boudoir sessions have become an important part of the Alter Ego Series, it is the next step in pushing past our comfort zones into confidence.  To this day I have used my boudoir photos as an example to my students that if I can, so can you.  At the end of the day I am woman, I am a work in progress.

I truly miss Marlene’s laugh and what she brought to my brand.  I learned so much about my self through her lens.

Be Confident.  Be Sexy.  Be You.

xo, Harley

 

 

 

 

 

My Conversation With Sleeping With MANhattan

candacejOn last Friday, I had the great pleasure of being interviewed by blogger Candace Johnson.  Candace is the ultimate single girl lifestyle consultant.  Her blog Sleeping With MANhattan
teaches single girls how to date in a fun and stylish manner.  She is a seductress herself.  I love like minded women:)
We had such a wonderful and fluid chat about seduction, dating, and all that comes in between.  Check it out:
How do you feel when you hear the word seduction?  How do you seduce?
Smooches, Harley

A Dare To Love: A Couple’s Retreat

photo(30)20140219-204657.jpgThe day of “Love”.  This year I spent my Valentine’s Day with 12 lovers.  I consider my self a lucky girl.  As the facilitator of this couple’s retreat,  we spent 2 days nestled in a quiet cabin in Helen, Ga.  The theme from the book “Love Dare”.  A 40 day challenge to practice unconditional love in various aspects of the couple’s real life situations.

Intimacy plays a very important role when it comes to loving another unconditionally.  So it was important for us t learn as a group but, to have a space to learn as a couple in private time. Activities as a group included DIY class, cooking, a trip to the winery,  candle light dinner.  It was necessary to separate the men and women.  Cigars and an open conversation with the husbands at a cozy cigar shop gave me a better perspective of their views on romance and sex.  My wives took the cake in a super early morning mini Seduction School lesson, lap dances, strutting in heels, and learning what it takes to build desire.  The evening Sex School session gave us an opportunity to introduce a few toys and tips to revamp the bedroom routine.  Plus, tips on making it happen regardless of mood and schedules.

Although, it was a lot of fun getting to know the group I cherished the one on one (usually late night) chats most of all.  The interesting part about this group was that they were honest with themselves on what the high and low points were in their relationship.  Not being afraid to pull me to the side for a little advice when needed.  The first step is definitely having a desire to do better for your mate.

I am grateful for meeting such a lovely group of loving wives and adoring husbands.  It is honorable that they cherish each other enough to take time away from their kids and careers in nu0rish and invest in their marriages.

XO, Harley

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